We found out what happened with the birth mother. When she gave birth, the baby looked just like the birth mother's father that her parents have adopted him. OK, that sounded really weird. But I am sure after awhile of thinking and contemplating I am sure. But it is nice to know what happened. I am happy for her. She does get the best of both worlds. She gets to see her son, but also gets to full fill her dreams. I pray for her. I hope that she accomplishes so much. He will be so proud of her. But that is how it ends.
The great news is, we are DONE with our home study, but we do need to change some of the application. We need to make it more birth parent friendly. So Brad & I are going to sit down & finish it this week.
Now on to the next adventure.......
Monday, September 28, 2009
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Best Nieces EVER
Brad & I get the opportunity to watch my nieces over night. Both Mike & Dee are out of town, too bad for them. So we get to have Kennedy (9) & Reyna (7) over, along with their dog Chewy. Who is also a westie like my dogs Lucy & Abigail. They in fact love it when Chewy comes over, because they just play & run around like mad puppies. Well tonight I went to a pamper chef party & when I got home my nieces & I looked at some of my old photos from high school, reason why is because Reyna has school pictures tomorrow. I told them some embarrassing school picture days & showed them proof. Then I told Reyna that I was going to put tiny braids in her hair & then we'll take them out the next day to make her hair HUGE. Well Kennedy & Reyna got the idea that they wanted to braid my hair & make it big. Not that it doesn't take much. But here are some fun photos of them doing it. I love those little girls. They are the best. I am very thankful that they live near by & I can have a relationship with them. They are fantastic. I love them.
Oh, Reyna is trying to make the "L" symbol for loser
Oh, Reyna is trying to make the "L" symbol for loser
Monday, September 21, 2009
Curtains
These are the curtains I made for our living room. I just have to make 2 more for the smaller windows. The same material is also over the sliding glass door. I am not going to get the same for the smaller. I haven't decided what material I will get. But something different. I am still having issues on making the bottoms even. But, not like Martha will be visitng anytime soon.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
9/15/09
My Uncle Art's birthday, my original due date, but came early AND the day that the birth mother gave birth to a little boy. The adoption is over. We are not adopting. It is over. Well this one. We are on to our next adventure of adoption. We have our last interviews on Thursday & then they will check everything over & that will be it & we go live & anybody can see our profile. Maybe we will get a call from Hawaii or something. Darn. Actually if we adopt out of state, we hope it is near family because we will probably stay in that state for about 2-3 weeks until the state will let the baby go to Alaska.
So back to this adoption. We actually found out through the great vine. Even to this day, no body has official said she gave birth. We have no idea if she kept him or chose another couple. In fact things that were leading up to that day were fun. Where we left off was waiting to hear back from her agency to see if they would work with us. Well a little over a week they finally responded & told us that they will release her (as if she is a prisoner) if we can give them our documents in like 10 minutes. I was like OK. I called my agency, of course around closing time, and asked them to do that. The secretary was so nice & was getting right on it. Nicki our social worker told us that we would have to sign release of information. I was like that is fine. So it would take a day or two & I let the other agency know that. Also LDSFS was reluctant to give them my information, because one if they are going to release her then they don't need it & two that is some really personal information. Well I can understand why they needed it, because they represented her still & wanted to make sure we were legit people. Then I thought about it, because the birth mother to this day, has not written us or anything. We had no idea if she knew what was going on exactly. So I wrote her agency & asked. Never heard back. In fact I even wrote them & said I heard that she had her baby & still nothing. OK. So on Wednesday I was driving home & was praying. I love that time in the car when it is silent & no body is around & you can have a REAL discussion with Heavenly Father. I asked him what should I do. I want to write her & just lay it out there. I prayed really hard & knew that I needed to write her one last letter. I got home & I wrote. I told her if this isn't a good experience for you, then stay with your agency & choice another couple. I encouraged her to pray about it & if she knew that we were the ones for her son then to fill out the paperwork for LDSFS. I wrote that if she chooses another couple, there would be no hard feeling. I told her that we appreciated meeting her & that we basically wished her the best of luck. We did tell her that we would love to adopt him & he would be loved. There was more to the letter, but that was the just of it. I sent it out Wednesday night & Thursday afternoon I found out from a dear friend that she had her baby. I knew then it was over. I will not lie I went through denial, crying & anger in like 3.3 seconds. I am still a little angry. I don't know at who or what. I think I just need closer, either knowing she kept him or chose another couple. I am sorry that it ended this way. But to tell you the truth I had a feeling it wasn't going to happen. You can ask my family & some of my friends & they will tell you that I said that from the beginning. I just had the notion. I also had that notion she was going to go early. I didn't want to sit on it with having to deal with both agencies & trying to get things done. She was due soon & needed to get the ball going. I also wrote the letter with hopes that if she didn't chose us, then she would have enough time to chose another couple & feel comfortable about it. If she kept him, I wish her the very best as a single mother. If she choose another couple, they are very lucky.
But that is the latest & greatest from our end. I know I always say there is a plan forever body & I know that. I will admit, I wish I had more control of that. But one thing I learned was to put it in the Lord's hands. He knows the whole picture. We did everything we could do get this beautiful baby in our house, but we can only do so much. I still want answers that I may never get. But I do know that there are little spirits waiting to come into our home. We can't wait to be parents & hope we do a good job.
So back to this adoption. We actually found out through the great vine. Even to this day, no body has official said she gave birth. We have no idea if she kept him or chose another couple. In fact things that were leading up to that day were fun. Where we left off was waiting to hear back from her agency to see if they would work with us. Well a little over a week they finally responded & told us that they will release her (as if she is a prisoner) if we can give them our documents in like 10 minutes. I was like OK. I called my agency, of course around closing time, and asked them to do that. The secretary was so nice & was getting right on it. Nicki our social worker told us that we would have to sign release of information. I was like that is fine. So it would take a day or two & I let the other agency know that. Also LDSFS was reluctant to give them my information, because one if they are going to release her then they don't need it & two that is some really personal information. Well I can understand why they needed it, because they represented her still & wanted to make sure we were legit people. Then I thought about it, because the birth mother to this day, has not written us or anything. We had no idea if she knew what was going on exactly. So I wrote her agency & asked. Never heard back. In fact I even wrote them & said I heard that she had her baby & still nothing. OK. So on Wednesday I was driving home & was praying. I love that time in the car when it is silent & no body is around & you can have a REAL discussion with Heavenly Father. I asked him what should I do. I want to write her & just lay it out there. I prayed really hard & knew that I needed to write her one last letter. I got home & I wrote. I told her if this isn't a good experience for you, then stay with your agency & choice another couple. I encouraged her to pray about it & if she knew that we were the ones for her son then to fill out the paperwork for LDSFS. I wrote that if she chooses another couple, there would be no hard feeling. I told her that we appreciated meeting her & that we basically wished her the best of luck. We did tell her that we would love to adopt him & he would be loved. There was more to the letter, but that was the just of it. I sent it out Wednesday night & Thursday afternoon I found out from a dear friend that she had her baby. I knew then it was over. I will not lie I went through denial, crying & anger in like 3.3 seconds. I am still a little angry. I don't know at who or what. I think I just need closer, either knowing she kept him or chose another couple. I am sorry that it ended this way. But to tell you the truth I had a feeling it wasn't going to happen. You can ask my family & some of my friends & they will tell you that I said that from the beginning. I just had the notion. I also had that notion she was going to go early. I didn't want to sit on it with having to deal with both agencies & trying to get things done. She was due soon & needed to get the ball going. I also wrote the letter with hopes that if she didn't chose us, then she would have enough time to chose another couple & feel comfortable about it. If she kept him, I wish her the very best as a single mother. If she choose another couple, they are very lucky.
But that is the latest & greatest from our end. I know I always say there is a plan forever body & I know that. I will admit, I wish I had more control of that. But one thing I learned was to put it in the Lord's hands. He knows the whole picture. We did everything we could do get this beautiful baby in our house, but we can only do so much. I still want answers that I may never get. But I do know that there are little spirits waiting to come into our home. We can't wait to be parents & hope we do a good job.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Amazing Sunset
Summer is leaving us & I love the sunsets during fall & especially during the winter. Tonight's sunset. Beautiful:)
AAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Breathe. I feel like my life revolves around adoption. To tell you the truth, I feel like I am being pushed one way then the next, then this away, that away. I'm about to sing a song. Ok, back on talk. So the birthmother's agency is willing to release her if she want to go. The problem is, I have no idea if she wants to..... Or even if she knows what is going on. Oh, the joys. I just want to know!!! My agency is ready & gun ho to go. Please tell me what to doooooooooo.
Monday, September 14, 2009
32 & 17
I turned 32 on the 13th & I watch 17 Again. I just have to say, if there was a Zac Efron in my school, he wouldn't give me the time of day. Yummy!!! Oh & the boys at my school defiantly did NOT look like him. He is nice looking, I am just a sucker for blue eyes. Well the movie made me think, if I went back to high school would I do it all over again or actually make the same choices. I have to say yes. Because I loved what happened after high school. If I changed one thing of high school, it wouldn't have been able to experience my after high school. I do know I probably wouldn't put so much energy of liking one boy. Which who ever went to high school with me, knew who that was. Also, I think I would have not taken so many things personal. Now I could care less. Why I took it personal, I have no idea. In fact, I think, because I took it so personal I was afraid to experience new things or put myself out there. But then again, it was high school. Now after high school. FUN!!! That I wouldn't change. It seems so long ago. 1996-98 I was living in St. George going to Dixie College & enjoying all the many things. Now most of my friends from that time are married & have more then 3 kids. Oh & Dixie is a 4 yr school not a 2 yr. 1998-2000 Mission in Italy. Never thought that would happen. In fact, I was eating pasta when I was filling out my papers. Loved my mission. The people I served with & served where amazing. Wish I could go back every year. Can't wait to go when the Temple is dedicated. 2000-2002 was at University of Utah. Good 2 years. An era that changed me. I knew graduating college with a bachelors degree was in view & then it disappeared when I changed my major to nursing & home I came. 2002-2004 Nursing School. Gooooooo UAA!!! I never thought I would EVER return & go to UAA. But I had great nursing friends that helped me through. It was a challenge but the support from family & friends, I finished. To think, if I changed one thing, how much my life would be different. Now my life consist of loving my husband, 2 dogs & awaiting for a wonderful baby to enter our life. I love being a nurse & I am thankful for all the blessings that we have received. I know that with all the challenges I have meet in my life, He has had the upper hand. Thank you.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Philippians 4:13
Brad's parents are the best. Every year around our anniversary they give us a gift that represents the # of years you have been married. This year (5) was wood, duct tape or I forgot. Well they choose wood. They made us a framed saying. I think Laurie in fact embroider it. Anyway. It is a scripture that is the theme of our life, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." How true it it. ID Thomas Family you are the best. Thank you. If we had a computer that worked fantastically, we would down load a picture, but for now, it is awesome. Thank you. I have married into the BEST family.
Adoption update. I, in fact wanted to put the title Roller Coaster of Adoption. But we all know that is true. I will admit I can be inpatient. The birth mother told us that we have to go through her agency & so we looked into & wrote them with a list of questions. Yes, I was told it may take till the end of the week for a response. But I would like to know NOW the answers. If I were them, I would be all over it. Especially since she is due in less then 5 weeks. I am actually shocked that they haven't been more active in it. Or maybe there is something that I don't know & we are in the dark. Maybe the father has said no or something like that & the birth mother is afraid to say anything or maybe the agency is encouraging her to pick a couple that has already gone through them. Or maybe she has just changed her mind. As you can tell, all kind of stuff has gone through my mind. I just wish someone would at least write us & let us know something. If she is afraid to tell us that she has chosen another path, she can email or have someone else call us. To tell you the truth I want her to look at our agency & go through ours. It would make life so much easier. But who said this was going to be easy. I called our agency the beginning of the week & the person that represent us & the women that represents the birth mother called to see what they can do to help or to get our home study done. They were on top of it & see what they can do to help. I can tell you this it isn't about the money. We found out that the church ends up subsidising about $16,000-$17,000 per adoption. I was shocked & thankful that they do that. But our house study was done tonight & it went well. The couple that came over & did it, were so nice & very helpful. If this adoption doesn't happen, we at least will have everything done & probably go live at the end of the month. So anybody can look at our profile on line, nation WIDE.
Anyway, I should be going. I am tried & have clinic tomorrow with another doctor. Hope everyone is enjoying life & the little challenges that go along with it.
Adoption update. I, in fact wanted to put the title Roller Coaster of Adoption. But we all know that is true. I will admit I can be inpatient. The birth mother told us that we have to go through her agency & so we looked into & wrote them with a list of questions. Yes, I was told it may take till the end of the week for a response. But I would like to know NOW the answers. If I were them, I would be all over it. Especially since she is due in less then 5 weeks. I am actually shocked that they haven't been more active in it. Or maybe there is something that I don't know & we are in the dark. Maybe the father has said no or something like that & the birth mother is afraid to say anything or maybe the agency is encouraging her to pick a couple that has already gone through them. Or maybe she has just changed her mind. As you can tell, all kind of stuff has gone through my mind. I just wish someone would at least write us & let us know something. If she is afraid to tell us that she has chosen another path, she can email or have someone else call us. To tell you the truth I want her to look at our agency & go through ours. It would make life so much easier. But who said this was going to be easy. I called our agency the beginning of the week & the person that represent us & the women that represents the birth mother called to see what they can do to help or to get our home study done. They were on top of it & see what they can do to help. I can tell you this it isn't about the money. We found out that the church ends up subsidising about $16,000-$17,000 per adoption. I was shocked & thankful that they do that. But our house study was done tonight & it went well. The couple that came over & did it, were so nice & very helpful. If this adoption doesn't happen, we at least will have everything done & probably go live at the end of the month. So anybody can look at our profile on line, nation WIDE.
Anyway, I should be going. I am tried & have clinic tomorrow with another doctor. Hope everyone is enjoying life & the little challenges that go along with it.
Saturday, September 5, 2009
"It's going to be a good, good night!"
Do you ever just listen to a song & no matter what, it puts you in the best mood. Well I have to admit it is the one by Black Eyed Peas new song, Good Night something. But no matter how mad I am or how bummed I am, I just listen to that song & immediately get all excited & start dancing & singing. I must look very odd while driving:):) The funny part is, people at work know this & will leave messages on my phone with this song. After this week I needed it playing ALL the time. Work was rough, but do able. I almost killed my doctor & all my patients. I know that sounds horrible. But I couldn't please ANYBODY. No matter what I did, my patients weren't happy. My mom always says, you can't always please everybody. All well, the joys of being a nurse.
Another thing that happened this week. The birth mother wrote us & asked us to get in contact with her agency to get the ball rolling on the adoption. She didn't say it like that, but she did tell us to call someone in her agency to see what needs to happen. In fact, she didn't say that she chose us & so I was like, did she choose us or not. I am so confused. I called Brad & read him the letter & he said it sounds like it. Then I called some of my co-workers to help figure it out. They wanted me to write her & clarify, but I was afraid to sound like an idiot, which happens quit often. But when we called her agency they asked us to go to their website & see if that is what we wanted. We have written them with a list of questions & we will see how much they will work with us. I know they representing her & what is in her best interest. Other then that, we are so excited. But are aware that anything can happen between now & then. We just pray that it goes well & no matter what, we need to keep that faith that everything is in the Lord's hands. She is having a boy & is due in 5 weeks or so. Scary for her. Coming to the end. Everyone asks about names & we have a couple, but probably decide till the very end. We have so many emotions going through us it is nuts. Now we wait & see what will happen.
Another thing that happened this week. The birth mother wrote us & asked us to get in contact with her agency to get the ball rolling on the adoption. She didn't say it like that, but she did tell us to call someone in her agency to see what needs to happen. In fact, she didn't say that she chose us & so I was like, did she choose us or not. I am so confused. I called Brad & read him the letter & he said it sounds like it. Then I called some of my co-workers to help figure it out. They wanted me to write her & clarify, but I was afraid to sound like an idiot, which happens quit often. But when we called her agency they asked us to go to their website & see if that is what we wanted. We have written them with a list of questions & we will see how much they will work with us. I know they representing her & what is in her best interest. Other then that, we are so excited. But are aware that anything can happen between now & then. We just pray that it goes well & no matter what, we need to keep that faith that everything is in the Lord's hands. She is having a boy & is due in 5 weeks or so. Scary for her. Coming to the end. Everyone asks about names & we have a couple, but probably decide till the very end. We have so many emotions going through us it is nuts. Now we wait & see what will happen.
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